I have been practicing and sharing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for 12 years as part of my passion for building stronger relationships, (focusing on, though not limited to, Couples and Parenting,) while developing more integrated and sustainable communities.
Teaching NVC has been central to my life for 6 years, working with the Kathleen Macferren, Karl Staeyert, and the rest of the core team on the Trainer Community Certification Path (TCCP), I completed my NVC Trainer Certification with CNVC in 2016.
As a Rose City NVC Teacher Training Program (TTP) participant, for the last 4 plus years I have co-taught NVC classes with Fred Sly, and have facilitated Rose City NVC’s Foundations and Integrations Classes and Tuesday night NVC Practice Group. I have also taught NVC at Oregon State Penitentiary, Columbia RiverCorrectional Institution, the Reentry Transition Center in Portland, and currently teach at Coffee Creek Correctional Facility (for Women). Simultaneously, I have participated in the Trainer Community Certification Path (TCCP) intensives for 5 years, and have co-taught NVC classes with LaShelle Lowe-Charde. I currently offer Individual and Couples Coaching to my greater Portland community.
My personal NVC journey includes many other forms of spiritual work with an emphasis on meditative and body awareness practices. I integrate practices which allow me other avenues to touch the essence of our NVC work.
While I believe the words and the form of NVC can help my participants touch into a place of greater compassion and understanding, I also believe that holding a space of compassion and understanding in myself creates ease in adopting the new words (silently and out loud) for my participants. My spiritual outlook related to NVC is to align my daily will in progress towards unconditional love, acceptance, non-judgement, and spaciousness.
My vision for an NVC world is that one day most adults will hold unconditional and loving space most of the time supporting each other in the hard times and supporting the development of those still growing so we can be present to more of each moment on this earth.
Xander has been practicing and teaching NVC for the last three years, and in the last year has started assisting and teaching through Rose City NVC and the Oregon Prison Project. Class participants have appreciated Xander’s insight and clear explanations of intricate concepts, his warm but relaxed and empathetic presence, as well as an authentic quality of participation that helps build an emotionally safe and trusting space.
Xander’s background in non-violence also includes study of pacifist and samkhyan philosophy, including practices of meditation, mindfulness, and yoga. Xander takes profound delight in growth, especially towards cultivating a sense of peace both within the self and in community. Xander believes deeply in “Walking the Talk”, and is always looking for new ways to embody NVC, be it in teaching, political advocacy, or simple presence. This includes an enthusiasm to co-inspire and collectively deepen in practice of compassion.
Xander also has a background in education, specifically within empowerment-based approaches to learning that focus on cultivating creativity and passionate engagement through intrinsic choice and unconditional support. This approach comes through in Xander’s classroom presence in the form of warm patience and encouragement, in addition to comfort and openness in facilitating.
Isaac has been active in the NVC community since 2009. He started facilitating NVC Classes and Practice Groups in 2014. Combining a background in Integral, Solsara, Heart of Now, Circling, Vipassana, and various other wisdom practices Isaac leads classes that employ a wide variety of angles and access points to assist transformation. Isaac brings elements from training/certification in Hypnosis and Neural Linguistic Programming to assist others in unlocking their own programming. Previously working as a Licensed Massage Therapist, Isaac studied various somatic healing practices including training in Psyho-Physical Therapy with Bill Bowen and Somatic Psychotherapy at the Hakomi Institute.
Since 2015, Isaac facilitates NVC Life Skills classes at Columbia River Correctional Institution. He is also a student of Psychology at Portland State University.