A Kinder, Gentler Way
When a strategy to meet a need (often ease, comfort, safety) is repeated over and over it becomes a habit. When a habit is continued despite a growing mountain of unmet needs we collectively label that an addiction. Breaking that habit and forming a new pattern, a new way of life, a new freedom is recovery. Recovery can be from drugs/alcohol (alcoholism), gambling, sex (sexoholism), people pleasing (co-dependency), shopping, working (workaholism), and many other behaviors/strategies/choices.
Recovery can be both one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences in life. Many of us never quite learned how to swim down the river of life because we had the life vest of our addiction to turn to – it might be restricting our movement but it is keeping us afloat too.
I once heard a woman in recovery say “When I was in my addiction, it was like every problem I ran into, anything I had to deal with, I just threw in to the back of my dump-truck of life and kept driving. I was dragging it all around with me but I never looked back there. When I got into recovery it was like I slammed the breaks on and that whole pile came crashing down on my head.”
We view that “pile of problems” as largely a need for mourning and closure around the unmet or untended needs in ourselves and the experience those around us had while we were “in our addiction” or choosing the same strategy again and again despite seeing some tragic results.
So why do some of us go through the 12 Steps or other recovery programs and get a new lease on life, while others appear to be in more misery than ever (sometimes called “white knuckling it”) – or anything in between? We believe one of the keys is including the emotional brain (including an empathetic awareness) in the recovery process – this is not a replacement for the program you are in – this is a little outside help to support your work and help you find more of the promises that make sticking with your recovery a joy.
In this workshop we will develop practice skills to super-charge our recovery:
- Practice a meditation techniques proven effective for building capacity.
- Cover the evidence based empathetic approach to self-inventory (what some of us call a “4th Step”, but applicable to anyone)
- Learn how to make an amends more meaningful and reduce the chance of harm to others.
- Practice emotionally intelligent reflective listening, a new tool for all of life and powerful when working with others.
Facilitator: Isaac Hart
Tuition: $35-$150 sliding scale, no one turned away for lack of funds (this for those who WANT it, we can find a way to make it WORK!)
When: Sunday, August 17th, 10:00am to 4:00p (1 hr lunch)
Where: SE Portland, register below to get more information.